恋爱是我们必经历的一个人生过程。有的人初中时间情意萌动，有的人到了大学才学会如果去谈恋爱。谈恋爱并不是一件十分困难的事情，想要恋爱走得更长久，就需要有一定技巧，需要了解一些恋爱必须了解的建议。
1．Be friends first before dating
约会前先做朋友。
2. A mama’s boy will never be YOUR man unless you obligate him to man up And if he doesn’t, he’s not the man for you
一个娇生惯养的男孩永远不会成为你的男人，除非你迫使他有男子汉的气概。如果他不喜欢，那么他不适合你。
3. Sometimes “thank you,” “I’m sorry,” “I messed up” or “let me know what you think” is more important than “I love you”
有时候，“谢谢”、“对不起”、“我搞砸了”或“让我知道你的想法”比“我爱你”更重要。
4. If you borrow someone else’s man, you have no right to say anything if another female takes him away from you
如果你借用了别人的男人，另一个女人又抢走了他，你无权说任何话。
5. Don't be too possessive Give them space to breathe Don't choke them
占有欲不要太强。给他们点喘息的空间，不要让人觉得窒息。
6. Give yourself time to heal and know yourself after a break up
分手后，给自己一点时间来疗伤，了解自己。
7. Your personal dreams and developments should always come first before the relationship Don’t stop working on yourself
你的个人梦想和发展应该总是优先于关系。不要停止为自己努力。
8. Never discard your friends for your partner constantly You’ll end up with no friends once your partner leaves and you’ll have no one to turn to
永远不要为了你的伴侣而抛弃你的朋友。一旦你的伴侣离开，你就没有朋友了，也没有人可以求助。
9. A man who loves you, and I mean really loves you, will give you a title and will profess it publicly “She is my wife/my girlfriend” If he doesn’t introduce you to his parents and his closest friends, he is not your man
一个爱你的男人，我指的是真正爱你的男人，会给你一个头衔，并公开宣称。她是我的妻子/女朋友。如果他不把你介绍给他的父母和密友，那他就不是你要找的人。
10. Don’t stay in an abusive or unhealthy marriage for the sake of your children Plan everything out thoroughly and take your kids with you to a safe home where you can rebuild your family and put things in order
为了你的孩子，不要留在一个虐待或不健康的婚姻中。把一切都计划好，带着你的孩子去一个安全的家，在那里你可以重建你的家庭，把事情安排得井井有条。
11. Loving someone is a risk, it may or may not work out Don’t beat yourself up when it doesn’t work out as you planned There is a lesson in every situation, embrace it and learn
爱一个人是一种冒险，可能成功也可能失败。当事情没有按照你的计划进行时，不要责备自己。每一种情况下都有一个教训，拥抱它并学习。
12. Have clear boundaries and values This will help you not to be taken advantage of Be consistent in expressing things you like and don’t like Learn to compromise without losing yourself
有明确的界限和价值观。这将帮助你不被利用。始终如一地表达你喜欢和不喜欢的东西。学会妥协但不失去自己。
13. Have a separate life beside your partner Have a social life Have an office life Have a personal life like any classes, yoga, going out, sport activities etc
和伴侣有各自的生活。拥有社交生活，拥有办公室生活，拥有个人生活，比如上课、瑜伽、外出、体育活动等等。
14. Never compare your partner with anyone If you want him to do anything, convey but don’t compare Comparison will make him feel negative, as if he is good for nothing This will make the negativity flow in your relationship
永远不要和任何人比较你的伴侣。如果你想让他做什么，就表达出来，但不要比较。比较会使他感到消极，好像他一无是处。这会让你们的关系变得消极。
15. There's no room for old baggage in new relationships Clear up your own past issues before whatever blew up in your past relationships lands all over your new love
在新的关系中，旧包袱是没有容身之地的。在你的新恋情出现问题之前，先理清自己过去的问题。
16. View your relationship as a project, something that needs to get worked on overtime to make it perfect later Never give up on working on it as long as it’s mutual
把你们的关系看作一个项目，需要加班才能让它变得完美。永远不要放弃努力，只要它是相互的。